Is there a divorce support group for men in South Africa?

Yes. After Divorce runs free men-only meetups built around an activity, like padel, a braai or a morning walk, alongside women-only meetups and mixed socials. Most other divorce groups in South Africa are mixed, church-run courses such as DivorceCare.

Nothing. There is no membership fee and nobody is selling anything. You pay for your own coffee, court fee or meat for the braai.

Do I have to talk about my divorce?

No. The meetups are things to do, not a circle of chairs. Some people talk a lot, some never mention it. Both are fine.

I am separated, not divorced yet. Can I come?

Yes. Most people need company most during the separation and the legal process, so come as soon as you want to.

How long do people come for?

As long as it helps. There is no course, no sign-up and no end date. Come every week or once a month, and stop when life is full again.

Is this a dating site?

No. The men's and women's meetups are for company and routine. The mixed socials and singles nights are there for when you feel ready, and they are optional.

We are just getting started. Meetups open city by city as names come in. Put your name down

Free · South Africa · Men and women

Divorce support that gets you out of the house.

After Divorce is a free divorce support group in South Africa built around a weekly calendar of things to do: a men's evening, a women's evening, weekend socials and a monthly singles night. Come when you like, for as long as it helps.

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A group of men and women laughing together around a braai in a garden at sunset

1 Same days, same times Every week, so you never have to ask if something is on.
2 Just turn up No sign-up, no fee, no commitment. Someone will say hello.
3 Stay as long as it helps Keep coming until life feels full again.

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What it is and how it works.

A free community for divorced and separated men and women. Same days and times every week. No sign-up, no fees. You just turn up.

The presenters in this video are AI-generated.

The standing week

Something to do, every week.

Full schedule and dates

Monday Mon

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Tuesday Tue

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Wednesday Wed

18:30

Men's midweek

Padel one week, a braai the next.

Men
Thursday Thu

18:30

Women's midweek

Supper club or an evening walk.

Women
Friday Fri

19:00

Singles night

For divorced singles who feel ready to meet someone.

Everyone 4th week only
Saturday Sat

08:00

Saturday parkrun and coffee

Walk it or run it. Coffee after. Kids welcome.

Everyone
Sunday Sun

15:00

Sunday social

Mixed afternoon: quiz, hike or a wine farm.

Everyone 2nd week only

Three ways in. Pick the one that suits where you are.

Four men relaxing courtside after a game of padel, laughing

Men

Why it is built this way

The hard part is the empty evenings.

After a divorce the house goes quiet. The weekends without the kids are long. Friends you shared as a couple stop calling. Most people do not need a 13-week course at that point. They need somewhere to be on Wednesday night.

So this is a calendar, not a programme. Padel, a braai, a walk, a supper. The people next to you have been through the same thing, and nobody expects you to talk about it unless you want to.

South Africa recorded 24,202 divorces in 2024, according to Stats SA. That is a lot of people sitting at home on the same nights.

Where

Opening city by city.

A group starts in a city as soon as enough people nearby put their names down. Pick yours.

Questions people ask

Is there a divorce support group for men in South Africa?: Yes. After Divorce runs free men-only meetups built around an activity, like padel, a braai or a morning walk, alongside women-only meetups and mixed socials. Most other divorce groups in South Africa are mixed, church-run courses such as DivorceCare.
What does it cost?: Nothing. There is no membership fee and nobody is selling anything. You pay for your own coffee, court fee or meat for the braai.
Do I have to talk about my divorce?: No. The meetups are things to do, not a circle of chairs. Some people talk a lot, some never mention it. Both are fine.
I am separated, not divorced yet. Can I come?: Yes. Most people need company most during the separation and the legal process, so come as soon as you want to.
How long do people come for?: As long as it helps. There is no course, no sign-up and no end date. Come every week or once a month, and stop when life is full again.
Is this a dating site?: No. The men's and women's meetups are for company and routine. The mixed socials and singles nights are there for when you feel ready, and they are optional.

Straight answers.

All guides

One evening a week, sorted.

We open city by city, as soon as enough people nearby put their name down. It takes a minute and it is free.

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